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It’s the Redd’s Street Carnival once more so tell your friends to tell their friends it’s time to paint the town red with Redd’s. Come join the fun at the Redd’s carnival at new beach Durban beach front, lower marine parade on the 28th of November. Be part of the procession and catch the cultural entertainment at 17:30.

The procession will open the festivities up to an uncontained after party for adult consumers at New Beach, where festival-goers can expect to dance the night away to a mind- blowing line-up of leading local artist such as Cashtime, Dreamteam, Riky rick, Chad Da Don, Nasty C, P.H WTF, DJ Feel and many more, who will undoubtedly leave them entertained.

Tickets for the after party will be available for over 18s for R100.00 at Computicket and will be available at the door for the same price on the day of the carnival. Doors open at 18h00 and the after party will continue until midnight.

For an impossible to contain experience join REDD’S as they tantalize your senses with CRISPAAHHH moments.

Win yourself and a friend tickets to this supercharged carnival extravaganza, all you have to do is share this blog post and tell us who you wanna bring along to paint the town red with Redd’s. And you can even win yourself a six pack of refreshing crisp Redd’s to get you started on your Redd’s Carnival.




#TheStyleIcon Khanyi Dhlomo





If there is one woman who seems to have her finger on the pulse of change in South Africa – it has to be the astute and eloquent Khanyi Dhlomo. The CEO of Ndalo media first appeared on South Africa’s television at the age of 20 as a young journalism student from the university of Witwatersrand, she broke new ground as the first black newscaster on SABC1. I know it seems awkward to fathom that at some point SABC1 was a predominantly white channel, but such is the history of South Africa.

Khanyi Dhlomo’s rise in the entrepreneurial world from a young newscaster to the CEO of Ndalo media came through persistence and dedication. Khanyi Dhlomo’s many roles took her from newscaster, True Love magazine fashion and beauty assistant, to being the editor of True Love magazine. When she stepped down from her role as  True Love editor having doubled True Love’s circulation Khanyi Dhlomo took a break and explored Paris. While in Europe, she took a job as manager of South Africa’s Tourism Board in Paris.

Khanyi Dhlomo’s love for the media industry prompted her to forge ahead and attain her MBA from Harvard university where she was mentored by Jonathan Newhouse, Chairman of Conde Nast International (publisher of Vogue magazine). She was keen to establish herself within the media industry as an entrepreneur, this time, as the CEO of Ndalo media a joint venture with media 24.

Ndalo media founded a website that serves as the online extension of Destiny’s publication. The website integrates an interactive social media platform with original and exclusive content, video footage, blogs, forums and business and personal profile listings. Just last Wednesday,17 September I partook in the DestinyConnects Live chat with Ndalo media CEO Khanyi Dhlomo. This is a platform created to mentor aspiring entrepreneurs.

Khanyi Dhlomo is a style icon in every sense showing you that beauty and brains can actually coexist and that everything and anything is possible with hard work and persistance. But, if that is not enough Luminance, Khanyi Dhlomo’s upmarket store owned by Ndalo Luxury Ventures, a fashion and lifestyle retail company is sure to convince you just how stylish Khanyisile Dhlomo is. The name “Luminance” is taken from her own name, Khanyisile, which means “light”.

Let’s take a look at some of Khanyi Dhlomo’s stylish moments.


Images taken from Google images.


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The Truth About The Natural Hair Care Journey

African hair is the most fascinating and most versatile of hair types in the world. Black hair in particular ethnic African hair, in its natural form is coily and or kinky so much that you cannot tell its length just by looking at it. Black women all around the world at some point get frustrated with their hair.

Have you ever heard a black woman say she is on a natural hair journey? Well, maybe not since only a few dare to get the big chop or attempt to transition (grow natural hair without chopping off the relaxed hair first).

There has been a growing interest in the natural hair journey amongst bloggers and vloggers. These mediums have given rise to a community of ‘naturalistas’ encouraging not only black women, but mixed race woman and woman of all races to embrace the hair journey.

The first time I heard of hair typing was from a blog. I have always known hair has different textures – wavey, lose curls, tight curls, coily but I had never heard of hair typing; until I came across a hair blog by an African American woman.

Natural hair is the most demanding, attention seeking, moisture craving of all hair types (maybe even most costly to maintain). The hair journey is not called a journey just because you get in touch with your hair as an abstract part of you. But, it is called a journey because going from the big chop to any length is going to require committment and dedication from your part. I was and still am very astonished by the amount of time and money African American woman and natural woman of the world spend on their hair.
In South Africa if you buy one or two jars of moisturiser for the month you are set as for the shampoo and conditioner you use whatever is available (you do not put much thought into what you put into your hair is what you get out).

The natural hair journey is a way of life! You need to educate yourself about hair in general and your hair in particular will always be a work in progress. I never knew there were such things as hair regimes (beauty regimes yes but not hair) until I started reading natural hair blogs.

Black hair loves moisture, simple rules of natural hair care is you have got to DEEP CONDITION, MOISTURISE, SEAL IN MOISTURE, READ STORE PRODUCTS ingredients list before buying(natural is best), AIR DRY (no heat), TRIM ENDS every 8 weeks, do PROTECTIVE STYLING and drink lots of water and if your hair fails to retain length re-assess your hair and/or change your regimen, failing which you should look at your diet and maybe even take health supplements.
Note: Expect your hair to react differently to change in season. Especially summer vs winter.

It is a struggle to maintain length with black hair due to breaking and shedding. I use to wonder why my hair just did not grow as it is suppose to (my hair is thin and sheds). I soon discovered that all hair grows at 1/2 an inch a month, the problem is not growth but retaining length.

Black hair in South Africa is often misdiagnosed, hairstylists have very limited information and little pride in their work and knowledge of hair (generally).
I sometimes I would relax and colour my hair at the same time (hair should be relaxed every 8 and not 4 weeks and should be allowed 3 weeks after a relaxer application before you dye/color). Hairstylists in my case have contributed to my hair not retaining length and growing past shoulder length (simply by failing to advise me accordingly).

The hair journey bloggers/vloggers personal experiences have helped me to understand my hair better and to find ways to combat shedding. Naturalistas are big on using D.I.Y products, natural oils are number one on the list (easily attainable at the local grocery store or pharmacy) and shearbutter is one hair care ingredient you cannot live without.

The best part about the hair care journey is everyone’s journey is different – just like everyone’s hair is different. The natural hair care journey is basically a platform for all women to share their experiences (what worked or didn’t work for them).
Natural hair bloggers/vloggers impart valuable information. One aspect I loved reading about more then any is when the big choppers or transitioners realise and fall inlove with their (wavey/curls/kinky/coily) hair type.

Most black women never get to know their hair type, their hair is usually always relaxed or straightened with heat – which can sometimes kill the curl pattern (myself included).

Although I have not gone totally natural I do use a mild relaxer which does not make my hair dead straight but allows a curl pattern to form and makes my hair stronger. I am also proud to say that my sister and two of my friends (who have gone natural) are now conscious about the products they put on their hair. They have started a healthy hair journey of their own and are loving it.

What are your thoughts on the hair journey?

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Old Habits Die Hard The Road To A Better You Begins Today, Summer Bodies Are Built In Winter

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Being a conscious buyer has been the best thing I could have done for my skin and hair this winter. If you missed my last blog post on natural oils, I was doing research on the best products for my hair and skin. I purchased various essential oils to try and make a combination of oils that will work best for my hair and skin.

I am glad to say my hard work paid off (well it was more fun then hard), my skin looks A-MA-ZING! I have found the potion to better looking skin…and being a good blogger I will share my secrete to having great skin despite the harsh, dry winter wind.

Now, when it comes to using oils or with most D.I.Y remedies it’s usually a matter of trial and error. And forget not – what works for me might not work for you, we have different skin and hair types not to mention the environmental factors and our diets – so many things come into play. But the great thing about using natural oils is that you can never go wrong.
I have been using coconut oil, almond oil, olive oil and custor oil as a moisturiser for my body and hair. Here is how I mix my oils.

1/4 Custor oil
1/2 Almond oil
1/2 Olive oil
1/2 Coconut oil (melted)

when I first used my moisturiser straight out of the shower I thought it might look oily, but to my surprise there was no oily look or feel. My skin is literally glowing since I started using the natural oils and it is clearer. The only other thing that I do differently apart from using the oil is I exfoliate my body once every week, when I apply the oil I use circular motion. I also use it on my hair to seal in the moisture after a wash and my hair just sucks it up there is no greasy residue left behind.

But, the all important rule of a healthier you is – great skin and body always starts from the inside out. Before I even decided to use essential oils I changed a few habits, I started jogging. When I don’t have time to jog I do exercises in the house (squats, lunges, plank etc.) just to get my heartbeat racing a bit. I make sure I drink a lot of water every-day!

So, as you can see I am trying to do things a little differently. I am not perfect. Sometimes if I give myself enough excuses I go a week without excersise, but I don’t give up. The following week I go right back, even more determined. Changing your lifestlye is one of the hardest things to do, because you have to unlearn habits you have become acustomed to for years.

In winter we change our eating habits we consume more coffee, eat more salty foods and hearty meals. We try to keep warm and as a result exercise less. This all contributes to the changes we see in our hair, skin and body. So the winter challenge for me was to be more active during the winter season. I believe my choice to be pro active made a huge difference not only for my health but my hair and skin too. Using the essential oils has been a rewarding choice for me. Now, if only changing my diet can be as easy…



How kind has the winter season been to you, and have you considered a lifestyle change?

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Why Are Black Skinned African #Woman Labeled As #TrueAfricanBeauty And Not Simply Beautiful?

What is beauty? This seems like a simple question with an obvious answer , I feel silly even asking it. In reality though we know fact and truth are not necessarily the same thing. So, let us not even define the word beauty, instead let’s just focus on the perception or idea of beauty within society.

If you have read my blog much you will have come to the realisation that the topic of woman and beauty fascinates me. The idea or perception of +beauty has been the centre of many heated conversation and argument even on social media. A few days ago I uploaded a picture of a random model on my facebook page, it was of a beautiful dark-skinned African model. She wore a lovely gold and cream designer dress – she had THE MOST AMAZING SKIN (that’s the first thing I noticed before focusing on her face) and bone structure. When I saw her picture I was excited, I thought I had to share it. She was a simple beauty with short hair.

The reaction I got from my facebook friends was of mixed reaction but nothing I did not anticipate. There are those who would like without commenting and a few who simply said true African beauty (I hate that term, beauty is beauty it is not African or western) and then came the expected comments from those who are ‘anti-black skin’, they went straight for the jagular and pointed out the fact that the model is too ‘black’ (too black for who? Or what?). Of the three types of people on +facebook I prefer the critics over the likes because with them at least I know what I’m getting.

The anti-black skin community believes if you are too dark (black) you are not beautiful, while the pro-black skin community embraces everything +African sometimes to a fault. Because in most cases they will pick a dark skin person over a light(er) shade or afro over a weave and African print over more contemporay attire. My only concern with people, friends and family that are pro African is they can get the lines between African beauty and African pride blurred.

Beauty is a universal term, there is no African beauty there is simply beauty and then there is African style or African inspired style. If a +model or woman from Africa is beautiful that should be because she looks appealing to the eye – she is a beautiful woman.
In many cases African beauty has been potrayed as that of a – woman, I do not agree with this ideology. In Africa we have many +shades of skin from the darkest to very light skin and kinky coily hair to straighter wavy hair. Yet, of all these differences the one the western and the world community embraces as ‘true African beauty’ is the darkest tone with the most coiled hair and in almost all cases the hair is short (African women love their hair, I have no idea why these iconic black woman have short hair-it might be a coincidence). The world perception of isolating African beauty into a category of its’ own is a great source of division.

I will not point fingers at where and how all this came about, we all know enough about the history of Africa to know that this is the effects of years of oppression of the body and now of the mind. African people need to know that colour does not define a person. We need to steer away from cosmetic +skin lightener (that’s a topic for another day). The world should let Africa decide what is African and what is beauty. I just hope in time African people can see beauty before .



What is your experience on peoples perception of African beauty or the beauty of an African woman?

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